Assuming you googled for a solution to your misery; crawled up in a couch, wearing pijamas all teary eyed and didnt take a shower in 2 days cuz you dont care, means you came to the right place.
End of any relationship is awful… It might be 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years. If you put your heart out there and get hurt, there is nothing you can do but take the responsibility for your own actions. There is always that one relationship with a guy we go back and forth, same mistakes, like a snowball of pain and agony that keeps growing as we try to push the relationship forward. We dont want to see the only reason is because we let them hurt us.
Dont you worry my ladies. It all happened to us, happening right now, somewhere to many women…Doesnt mean we aren’t beautiful, amazing and one of a kind ; we deserve the best treatment. If you even slightly feel your not valued and loved, get out before you can. We have extraordinary sixth senses that were evolved-I imagine to protect our children and communicate- much more than men who are hunters and logical thinkers. Use that sixth sense! You can tell something is off, you can tell he will make you miserable but you decide to go on a journey to make him magically fall in love with you so that one day he will realize and stop being such a jerk, treat you as the princess you are? Nope. He. Never.will.
This is where our punishment comes in… Assuming you tried everything on the list of things a confident , self- loving woman should never do : Calling him endlessly, taking him back whenever he wants, having sex with him no strings attached, Begging, trying to reason with him , trying to convince him your the one for him, wrote him long letters explaining how he hurt you, accepting his request to stay friends so he can move on without feeling guilty….List goes on but the result never changes. It hurts you, stops you from moving on and getting back your power.
Lets call this Jerks J’s. J’s dont deserve you in their life. In any way.
If that isnt clear enough let me put it this way.
They dont give a fuck about you so why do you? J is out there looking for a different piece of meat to enjoy. J is watching porn, talking to 5 different people at a time, J is not bothered by disturbing thoughts of you being with other men… Atleast now. But hopefully when he does care, you will be out of fucks to give! 🙂
1. Stop all communication (No contact but without a time frame ; ok atleast a month and by this I mean drop out of the face of the earth, no mails, no answering texts, like you dont exist in his world)
2. Find a hobby, write down things you enjoy doing.
3. Improve yourself, easier said than done but read a book, write a blog, get a job etc)
4. Imagine your life at the top, feel good about the future. Give it a try. Meditation can help.
5. Music is a healer, go on long walks at night with inspiring music. Also good for workout.
6. Workout. This goes with improve your looks, haircuts, sexy clothes.
7. If you can find a different group to hangout, new people means new experiences.
8. Be busy making money. AnyWay you can. Go take that extra job, work night and day, who cares about men and relationships. Your busy getting money.
Now if you still feel like you cant help but want him back; think of this,
It cant get any worse and this works for getting him back too. Plus why would you want him back if he treats you poorly ; write down the reasons why he sucks and see if you still logically do. If you decided you want him back continue ignoring but when he comes back crawling (nothing less than that) you have the choice to take him back or shut him off. Dont come back crying here telling me the same things happened and your hearts broken the 74847th time by this guy.
No Mercy.